This year has been and still is one of the strangest in the world of sports, but also in general. The prevailing pandemic caused confusion and shocked many. Ben Stokes recently got another bad news; His father was diagnosed with brain cancer.
Stokes immediately decided to return home and support his father in the most difficult moments for him. Now, after 5 weeks, he has decided to return to the UAE but will still have to spend 6 days in quarantine before he can start playing.
"Sitting in a hotel room in quarantine once again after leaving New Zealand is not how I thought I would be arriving at the IPL, but here I am and all things considered, I'm in a good place," Stokes wrote in a column for The Mirror, as quoted by criccbuzz However, the support of his parents in those moments was very important and with their help he could more easily bear such news "Saying goodbye to my dad, my mum and my brother in Christchurch was tough.
It has been a difficult time for us as a family, but we've pulled together and supported each other as best we can. "And I was able to get on the plane with my parents' love and blessing after we reached the decision, for me to get back playing, as a family with no external influences," he added.
Conversation with his mom
Stokes felt very bad in those moments when he found out about the news and did not know how he would react when he returned home. Yet he says he had a serious conversation with his mother that influenced him and helped him look at things differently "I didn't know what dad wanted, I didn't know what mum wanted so to start that conversation off was the hardest thing of all.
And then mum made it simple, she said: 'The time you are spending here now with your dad is so much more important than the time you will spend when the worst happens.' "That is a tough thing to hear, but when it comes from your mum and your dad is reinforcing that message, then it makes things a lot easier to deal with.
"My dad was also very strong on the responsibilities I have. He told me I have a duty to do the job that I do and I have a duty as a husband and father as well. We gave it all a lot of thought and talked it over at length, and we came to a decision that now sees me back focusing on the game," said Stokes.